You have created a profile on a marriage site. You’ve looked at some of the profiles there. And you are interested in someone! You are eager to start a conversation, but at the same time nervous. Also, if you don’t make the first move, chances are you two will never interact. How do you cross this obstacle? How do you approach your partner, a complete stranger, without sounding too desperate?
This step is like walking a tightrope; it needs to be balanced. So, here is a list of tips to make that first impression, the best impression.
1. Follow the prompts in the profile – this is where you start. The few details included in the marriage profile will give you a better understanding of the type of person you might be interacting with: their attitudes, their interests, and their dislikes.
2. Something shared: Talking about common interests and hobbies acts as a great icebreaker. Discussing a hobby will ensure that you have something to talk about without getting too personal. If the person seems a bit closed off, start small talk.
3. Keep it simple: Greet the person with a “Hello” or “Hello.” Introduce yourself, a little more than what you have included in your marriage profile. You can compliment them on an interesting and well-crafted profile. Be polite in your tone and don’t overdo it. It must sound genuine.
4. Try not to intimidate – What many don’t realize is that your tone sounds intimidating. You don’t want the other person to feel like you’re imposing on them. So make sure to check that.
5. Don’t flirt with the person. Many times, we think that calling a person “cool, hot, or sexy” sounds hip and trendy. On the contrary, it creates a bad impression. Watch your words when you speak.
6. No personal questions: no person feels comfortable sharing personal details with a stranger, that too with a person who currently exists only virtually. Respect the person’s privacy and save those questions for later conversations, if you communicate every day.
7. Don’t rush: Approaching a partner isn’t about directly proposing. You can suggest that if you are also interested, you can get to know each other better. And, if things work out, then it might be the right time to say “I want to marry you.”
8. Be yourself – In trying to impress, it’s quite natural to be a little pretentious. You want someone to be honest with you, so do the same. Show them the real you.
9. Ask out on a date: After a few conversations, and if you feel comfortable with the other person, you can take it to the next level by asking them out. However, make sure that you are both interested in the same thing.
10. Be positive – Don’t be discouraged if the person you are trying to contact does not respond positively. There will be many more people you can interact with.
So, use tips to get closer to your partner and you will be on the right track. Take it easy, one day at a time.