SHIELD just called. They need your help. No, you don’t have time to finish organizing your sock drawer. The dishes will have to wait.

Today I sat for a minute and watched the father across the street put together the new trike for his son. He looked at his son looking at him. I felt the power of that moment.

He thinks that only in movies are men summoned to save the world from darkness. He thinks again. As a man, you are called upon daily to discover and use your powers. But I have no power, you say? Tsk. Tsk. Tsk. I used to think that way too. You’ve bought into the lie that you’re normal for far too long, my friend. Are you ready to start living the life you were meant to?

If you’re ready to step up the level of adventure and satisfaction and just plain LIFE you’ve been getting, read on. I’m going to give you a 4-step lesson on how to start wearing the cape and stockings in your marriage.

1. Find your fortress of solitude. You are going to need some time and a focused place to work. Carve out some time from your schedule and find a venue where you won’t be disturbed. You’ll need a couple of hours a week. You will use it to gain clarity on what you want and where you want to go. What do you want to change?

2. Rediscover your origin story. We all have a story. Chances are yours is riddled with disasters, betrayals, and disappointments just like mine. As is everyone’s. If you want to be extraordinary, you have to change all this. Now I’m not saying lie about the facts. Although you could. Nothing wrong with that. But at least, I’m saying reinterpret it. Anthony Robbins turned the painful story of his father’s departure into a powerful reason to make his life extraordinary. Wayne Dyer focused only on the positive aspects of his childhood as an orphan. You are not powerless over the past. In fact, he is the source of your greatness and powers.

3. You have heroes for a reason. Design your character. Most people think that our personalities are fixed. That they are something static that you were born with. The truth is that there are many you. If you think about it, there is a you that you use for your boss. A different one that you use to hang out with your friends. Other than you are when you play ball with your children. Another one you use with your wife. For a dramatic example from the Reinventing Yourself book, Steve Chandler says to think about what happens when he interacts with a baby. You become very gentle and playful and might even speak in a cartoon voice. Forget who you have been up to this point. Who do you want to be? Do you want to be confident? Elastic? Decisive? You can be all you need is practice.

4. Begin your practice. You’ll have to start somewhere. There are two parts to the practice. The training and the project. First, decide what features you want to build on. You will need to design a daily workout to start developing those capabilities within you. And then you’ll need a way to put it into action in the world. Drafts are like the regular season game schedule.

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