“True love is the soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another.” I will never forget this quote from the movie Wedding Crashers, it hit me like lightning. The soul mate for me is someone with whom you connect deeply. The connection is amazing that they understand each other even when no words are spoken. They are both always thinking the same thing and are compatible in every way. I don’t care what those self-righteous people say, but a soul mate is someone who completes your existence. People who have fallen deeply in love can relate when I say that when you have found your soul mate, your life is never the same again, you feel complete even if there are other things obviously missing from your life. If you want to know how to find your soul mate, read the following tips below:

1.) Believing that each person has their soul mate.

Have a little faith and start believing that one day you are going to find that person who will love you for everything you are. Let me quote Paulo Coelho: “When you want something, the whole universe conspires to help you achieve it”, he is absolutely right, at least for me. True love is such a deep and mysterious topic and there are many opposing views, whether or not soul mates exist. For some, there is no such thing. Nobody really knows, right? What you have to do is keep an open mind and stop being cynical. When your thoughts are always negative you are also attracting negative situations. Your definition of a soulmate may be different than most people’s, so what you can do is create a vague list of things you’re looking for in a relationship. Hold on to what you believe in and know that there is someone out there, somewhere, for you.

2.) Become a better person.

Are there aspects in your life that you need to improve? Do you have to work on some issues about yourself? Are you dissatisfied with yourself and with life in general? Before you find a soul mate, you have to be the best person you can be. When you learn to stop depending on other people for acceptance and become your own source of love, that is the time when you will be ready for your soul mate. Work on your problems and make peace with yourself. You won’t have anyone sticking with you if you bring a lot of emotional baggage into the relationship.

Another way to improve yourself is by committing yourself to whatever you are passionate about. Have you always loved dogs? If so, volunteer at a dog shelter. Not only are you helping to make the world a better place, but you are getting closer to your soul mate. After all, a soulmate is a person who shares the same interests and goals with you.

3.) Be patient.

Everything that happens in our lives has a perfect timing so you don’t have to rush it or you may end up with the wrong person. Take your time and give yourself a chance to get to know the person. Keep in mind that love is not just about a strong physical attraction. True love will make you see beyond the superficial aspect of the relationship.

4.) Learn to love and accept people for who they are and not for what you want them to become.

This is a very common trap in a relationship. We try and try to change someone to what is ideal. Remember that each person is unique and no human being is perfect. We are given the ability to love so that we can accept the person with all their imperfections and flaws. If you live in your own fantasy world and want someone perfect, you will never know how to find your soul mate. Unrealistic or delusional expectations can ruin everything. These will prevent you from experiencing what true love really is.