Well, then you have finally decided that she is the one for you! You’ve come up with your own clever and original way of how you’re going to “ask the question”; a beach somewhere exotic? A romantic candlelight dinner? Taking her back to the first place you met? All ideas are great, but now you have the fundamental problem, the one thing 99.9% of guys don’t know, what’s your ring size? Something you should know before giving her an engagement ring!
What’s better than ruining that special moment, trying to push the ring on your finger only to find that all three of its sizes are too big, or God forbid, it’s too small and you break a nail trying to put it on? Well fear not as in this article you will be given a dummies guide as let’s be honest that’s what we all need, to find out your partner’s ring size without her knowing. The tips and techniques you’ll find below probably come from hours of panic and confusion from people in the same situation you’re in right now, so while some are better than others, each idea is worth careful consideration.
ask your closest friend
I think the only thing that probably came to mind almost instantly the moment you thought of this was asking one of your close friends. A good idea, since it is very likely that they know his ring size, but this is not without risks. If you intend to keep this a surprise, are you 100% sure this friend isn’t going to “spread the beans” and screw you up? If you go down this road, you need to make sure that first of all this friend can be trusted not to tell her girlfriend what your intentions are, and also that she won’t start a Chinese whisper game, telling everyone possible. but your partner; as this runs the risk of him coming back to her by other means. That said, if you’re sure you can trust one of her friends not to spoil the surprise, this is a surefire way to get her ring size. Be sure to ask about the correct finger ring size, you could even take your friend with you while she chooses the engagement ring!
Steal/borrow one of his rings
One of the preferred methods of finding out your ring size without telling or asking anyone is to take one of your rings to the jewelry store. So it’s time to bring your James Bond 007 skills to life and think of a way to get a ring, from the matching finger, without her knowing! Now there are many methods you could try with this, but this option is only available to you if you are sure that your girlfriend will not instantly know that the ring is missing. For some people this will be much easier than for others. If you intend to “borrow” a ring from your jewelry box or dresser, stealth and speed are everything! If possible, try to keep the ring away from its usual place for only a couple of hours, a day at the most. If the unthinkable happens and your partner realizes the ring is missing, it might be a good idea to drop it on the floor somewhere around your usual house, this should make your partner believe that you have dropped it on the floor by accident. ; something you’ll probably get blamed for anyway, but at least your plan goes unnoticed!
It’s also extremely important that you get a ring that she wears frequently; This won’t work if you take a ring she hasn’t worn since her high school prom, or since she was a bridesmaid at her great aunts wedding in 1984! Carrying one of her current rings with you is often a foolproof method of getting a completely accurate ring size, ensuring that the engagement ring fits perfectly!
Taking her ring size when she’s asleep
Again, this is a method that is by no means going to be successful for everyone; It very much depends on whether your partner is a heavy sleeper or not. As we all know, some people are much easier to wake up and annoy than others, so knowing your partner’s sleeping behavior is vital. Using a ring sizer or ring size chart while you sleep could be an effective method or get an accurate measurement, but again this is risky business. If you’re trying to get the ring size and she wakes up catching it with a ring chart or something similar around her finger, you can be pretty sure her plan was foiled. Although you may not realize it instantly, rest assured, you’re likely to have that “Eureka Moment” while enjoying your morning toast or cornflakes. If your partner is a heavy sleeper and a herd of wild elephants couldn’t wake her up, then this is a good option. It may be worth trying this after she’s had a few large glasses of wine to make sure she’s sound asleep!
Taking a measurement of your ring
A popular and extremely successful method is to take a measurement of one of her rings while she is not looking. Now it would be a good idea not to try this while the ring is on her finger, unless of course you’re Harry Houdini!
Your first task is to find a time when she’s not wearing the ring, remember you don’t need a lot of time to do this, so even a quick measurement while she’s in the shower will work. If she thinks this will be the best method for her to get her ring size, then I suggest she use paper and draw around the inside of the ring with a pen or pencil. It’s vital that you don’t draw around the outside of the ring (for the obvious reasons). Take the outline of the ring to the jewelers and explain to them exactly what she has done, then they should be able to measure the ring size from that. Precision with pen or pencil is important! There are other methods of measuring without the use of a pencil, such as taking a mold of the inside of the ring with clay or something similar, or even measuring the inside of the ring with calipers or another precise measuring device.
Put it in the conversation
Trying to inadvertently ask her what her ring size is, without actually asking her… is always going to be difficult! First of all, you need to somehow bring up the subject in an extremely subtle way, a good technique perhaps suggesting that you are looking to buy a ring and asking what ring size you think you will have; then you could ask what hers is without setting off too many alarm bells. You have to be careful when doing this, as too much probing will surely blow your cover!