Sex education should present the different moral and social issues raised by different behaviors as impartially as possible. Sex educators should avoid describing sexual behaviors in subjective and critical terms as wrong or abnormal. Sex education is about putting behaviors in context. Teens need to understand that consideration and respect are paramount when engaging in sexual activity with a lover.

Men can be brutal and ruthless. Men protect the women and children they love from this harsh reality to some extent. Men are looking for opportunities for penetrative sex. Penetrative sex is the ultimate in arousal and usually gives a man an easy orgasm. It is generally accepted that a person (male or female) needs to be at least 18 years old before they can deal with this world of sexual pressure and aggression from men.

Any act of mating is a male conquest. The female is subjugated. If a woman is always sexually willing, then there is no conquest. Men enjoy intercourse to excite penetration, which contributes to making sex erotic and taboo. This is why women rarely appreciate erotica, which is a male view of sexual intercourse. It is difficult for a woman to appreciate why a man finds this simple, repetitive action (penetration of the penis into the vagina) so fascinating.

Intercourse is a territorial act of male dominance. Intercourse makes perfect sense to a man. The biological role of the male is to impregnate a female. But a woman’s sexual role is much less obvious. Sex is something that is done to a woman. Nothing in her mind or body motivates a woman to have sex. Intercourse allows a woman to assume a passive role focused on accepting her lover’s attentions and facilitating male orgasm.

Penetrative sex involves the penis entering another person (vagina or rectum) and thrusting until ejaculation. Only the giver (not the receiver) has an orgasm with intercourse. Sexual activity does not have to equate to intercourse, but when it does, the penetrator must be very considerate of his mistress.

Penetrative sex (both anal and vaginal) has a special role in our concept of eroticism. The penetration of a phallus is key to our vision of what sex is. Both sexes can be turned on by the concept of being the penetrator or being penetrated regardless of sexual orientation. Both men and women can use an artificial phallus to simulate penetration for arousal, either for themselves or for a lover. Both sexes can be penetrated by a phallus or dildo but only a man can penetrate a lover with his own sexual organ.

Sex can be painful for women at certain times. A woman’s vagina may not be adequately lubricated for comfortable intercourse. Young women may need to use a water-based lubricant. The action of a man’s muzzle hitting or crushing his vulva can cause damage by crushing the delicate skin of his labia. A man may need to vary his thrusting technique or even stop having sex for a while until the woman has healed.

Men target young women because they respond more easily to flattery. Initially, young women interpret the admiration of men as flattering. But over time they realize that the motivations of men are selfish. Men compliment women because they expect an opportunity for penetrative sex that focuses on their own orgasm. A man doesn’t necessarily want an experienced or proactive lover because he wants to enjoy his own arousal.

A woman only needs to be willing to have sex for as long as a man needs to ejaculate. A woman simply has to lie there and wait for the man to finish. A woman is not sexually motivated based on her own responses. She doesn’t get turned on by sexual play like a man does. When she is in love, it is natural for a woman to return affection. Otherwise, the decision to move her hips in such a way as to increase penile stimulation is a conscious decision based on her desire to end intercourse earlier by promoting her lover’s orgasm.

Anal intercourse is much less popular among heterosexuals than it is among homosexual men. Women’s lack of arousal with a lover means they have little reason to explore sexual play. Some women invest in sexual games out of curiosity and to please their lover. Women prefer vaginal intercourse because it is socially acceptable and can be morally justified as it is necessary for reproduction. Vaginal intercourse requires much less skill on the part of the penetrator since the vagina is designed to be easily penetrated by a penis. Ironically, women also prefer the lack of stimulation that vaginal intercourse provides because it is less erotically explicit and allows them to essentially ignore what a man is doing to their bodies. The male sex drive and women’s desire to leave stimulation to a man naturally help with reproduction.

Penetrative sex is primarily driven by a man’s sexual desire to penetrate another person’s body (vagina or anus). But the concept of penetration is fundamental to what we consider sexual or erotic. Penetration represents the most dangerous sexual activity, the most taboo and yet the most exciting. Even without arousal, the recipient of penetration (with a finger or dildo) can experience the sensations of allowing another person to be so intimate.

Heterosexual contacts occur more frequently because they are facilitated by the greater submissiveness of the woman and the greater aggressiveness of the man. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)