Have you been thinking about playing mind games with your ex so you can get revenge and hopefully maybe even win back their love? What you feel and wonder is natural and possible, if you do it right! Read these 3 tips and you’ll be surprised how quickly you’ll regain control over this situation and yourself…

Tip #1: Decide that you will be the one in charge from now on.

Take back your personal power and control over this situation by first deciding to be the leader of your relationship life. So what if your ex is the one who started the breakup? He decides that this relationship only ends when you say it is. Change your mind, change your life.

So in the meantime, realize that it’s not that they’re leaving you, it’s that you’re giving your ex a chance to prove if he or she is worthy of being taken back into your life! This is the best kind of revenge: If he or she doesn’t apologize and make amends for ending your relationship, don’t take it back. After all, it’s really his loss for breaking up with you. Keep reminding yourself that you are a catch and that anyone would be lucky to be with you.

Tip #2: Give your ex some “shock therapy.”

What do I mean by shock therapy? Catch your ex by behaving in the complete opposite of what your ex would expect of you. Why do this? Because right now, your ex has a certain image of you in his mind. And for some reason, that image has become ‘negative’ or ‘boring’.

Since this is all on your ex’s mind, we need to do some “shock therapy” and get your ex to reconsider some of their preconceived notions about you, your relationship, and your life. After all, if you don’t try to ‘surprise’ her ex, there’s no guarantee anything will change in her ex’s mind, right?

So play some mind games with your ex by doing something unexpected and unusual. Please don’t be too extreme. It only modifies a small part of your behavior. For example, if you’re usually quiet and don’t talk much, be more talkative and open than usual. And if you tend to be very talkative, shut up and listen carefully. I guarantee your ex will be shocked to see you change so quickly.

Tip #3: Go out with your friends and take great photos to upload to your social networks like MySpace or Facebook.

One of the reasons I share this advice is to provide you and your ex with a safe space and opportunity to reconnect and communicate. Now that they’re not a couple anymore, it’s harder to call each other to ask “How are you?” But you can bet your ex is curious to know how she’s been doing since you broke up. So the best way to send the message that you’re okay is to share photos of some fun events you and your friends have been to together. Even if she has only been taking photos while out alone, just upload them. You never know when your ex might decide to start a conversation with you about something interesting in your photos!

Now that you’ve read these 3 quick tips on how to play mind games with your ex to get revenge and even get love back, I sincerely hope you feel better soon and treat yourself right now because you can.