Today, more American couples than ever are experiencing the emotional devastation associated with infidelity, stagnant sex lives, and lack of intimacy. These common marital problems often result in ruined relationships and it is reported that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce. This is an alarming statistic whose root cause deserves to be examined.

Certainly, every relationship goes through difficult times and requires constant work. However, over time, many married couples begin to lose the connection that brought them together in the first place. This often manifests itself in deception and generally reprehensible behavior. In some cases, the cause of this is a general complacency or lack of sexual connection. When this occurs, one or both partners may get sidetracked and engage in an extramarital affair.

All humans crave variety and excitement. There are very few of us who have not fantasized about being with a co-worker or a neighbor. However, there is a way to satisfy these urges without being unfaithful to your partner. The swinger community, or those in the “swinging” community, have discovered a way to maintain healthy relationships by eliminating many of the stressors associated with committing to a single sexual partner for life. The secret is this: a couple engages in this form of entertainment together to eliminate the cheating problem! In fact, there is no other group that frowns upon infidelity more than swingers.

Many find that the excitement, anticipation, and side effects of swinging provide a charge to what can normally be a “vanilla” sex life. Consider the bond and sense of togetherness that is created by planning a date or visiting local couples clubs together. Also, compared to the life of a bachelor, a swinger always has a “partner” and knows exactly who he goes home with at the end of the night. The risk of not finding the right hookup on any given night is virtually eliminated! Swingers also experience a greater sense of appreciation for their partner as they see how attractive their partner can be to others. This often creates a great resurgence of romance for a couple who have been married for some time. Finally, the simple fact is that playing or having sex with other people you are attracted to is just plain fun.

Those who have considered swinging often have real and genuine concerns. These are certainly well founded as the concept of rocking goes against what society taught most of us. To successfully participate in swinging, married couples must have a loving and committed relationship. Otherwise, the process of exploring the balance will be like pouring gasoline on a fire. There are a few things you should be willing to accept before you make your introduction to the swing.

– A couple must confront insecurities about themselves and potentially sharing their partner with others. If the mental anguish associated with swinging makes the experience horrible or creates a high degree of jealousy, swinging may not be for you. It is essential that people overcome personal hang-ups and develop a sense of self-confidence.

– Communication is the key ingredient to ensure a successful entry into the swinger lifestyle. If both partners have not agreed on the rules and the best way to proceed together in every detail, then disaster will be the inevitable result.

– A married couple should be so confident in their relationship that they can emotionally separate their love for each other and the simple act of having sex. This seems counterintuitive since most of us have only had sex with those we love. While sex is certainly a way of showing love, on a biological level it is more about physical pleasure. Have fun with it.

In the event that you and your partner are interested in swinging, the next obvious question is how to get started. There is no typical route where some couples take small deliberate steps while others stumble upon it by chance. The easiest and least risky way to meet those in the “lifestyle” is to visit local couples clubs. While this may seem intimidating at first, the vast majority of swingers are courteous, graceful, and not aggressive at all. Simply explain your situation and they will be happy to share their experiences. Most are interested in making friends long before they jump into the sack. It’s as easy as searching the internet for lifestyle or couples clubs in your area.

Alternatively, many find that there is a mutual attraction to another couple with whom they are already friends. This is often characterized by flirting or sexy talk during parties between drinks. If he’s feeling adventurous, suggest an introduction to swing games, such as strip poker, spin bottle, or truth or dare. These games often provide an “innocent” way for couples to begin exchanging on a very moderate level without fear of rejection or awkwardness. Party games for married couples are the perfect way to establish coziness while exploring the swing. After all, it’s just a fun and sexy game being played, not a full swap. Who knows, as the game heats up and the clothes start to come off, you might find out that you’re already a swinger!

In the end, whoever opts for partner swapping should only do so if they are in a stable relationship. Swinging is an absolute blast and can reinvigorate an outdated sex life. Don’t take yourself too seriously, communicate constantly with your partner, and most importantly, HAVE FUN!