Yes, it is difficult to cope with those times. It has been dumped for reasons you don’t know or “think” you know. However, nothing can prevent you from feeling miserable and disillusioned with what they call ‘love’. The only thought that repeats in your mind is how to get your ex back. But did it ever occur to you that changing your mindset and attitude could help you get your ex back? Is that how it works:
– The first step in changing your mindset is to stop thinking that chasing your ex would help, as this is the only way to show them that you care. Unfortunately it doesn’t work this way. The more you call, text and email, the more desperate and pathetic you seem. Instead of trying to get back with you, your ex walks away from an otherwise weak and pitiful human being. There is no way this mindset can help you get your ex back.
– Instead, spend your waking hours being busy with work, hobby, people, etc. Structure your thought process and try to think more calmly and rationally. Remember that there is nothing more attractive than being a completely positive and optimistic person. Once you are close to getting your ex back, this change in mindset and attitude will keep him with you forever.
– All that is repressed in your mind – take them out. Sit down at the computer and open a file called ‘Notes to myself’. Write down everything you remember about the affair with your ex. Include all the positive things as well as the negative events like your first fight etc. The most important thing to write down are the things you never told your ex: your innermost feelings, fears, and concerns. You have no idea of the immense therapeutic value that this type of verbal regurgitation has on the mind. Revisit the file and update it again and again with new entries that pop into your mind. To get your ex back, this is a type of mental cleansing, which can go a long way in making you a much more positive person.
– Eliminate all the negative aspects that you associate with your ex. If a particular pub reminds you of your ex, a wonderful way to get over your ex is to visit the place with someone else! Stay calm and try to enjoy the company of other people. The problem when we deeply love someone is that we forget to love others. To get your ex back, be available all the time not only to your ex, but to other people as well. You don’t have to be mentally involved with someone to go out dancing or see a movie.
– Perfect what you are good at and improve your flaws. Take a cue from what your ex used to bring up. If your ex thought you had a wonderful singing voice, why not cultivate this talent and join a music class? If your ex thought you were a bad cook, why not try to improve this skill, which can be very useful in later life? Remember, to get your ex back, you don’t have to give up everything and spend the rest of your life in grievance and regret. While you wait with open arms to win your ex back, you could use the time to take good care of yourself.
– The best thing that happens when you become such an improved and positive person is that people notice you and gradually become attracted to you. The more people who are attracted to you and seen in your company, the better your chances of getting your ex back. You are showing your ex in a very positive way that he missed the boat. And very soon they come running back to your arms.