One day, your boy wants to give you the world. But the next day, he says that he’s done; His feelings for you have changed. Isn’t it frustrating and bewildering? until i found out Why do guys change their minds about girls so fast?, I kept experiencing the shock and pain of suddenly losing a guy’s affection over and over again. To help you avoid a similar fate, here are two things about the boys you should know right now…
1. Boys communicate more with their actions than with their words.
Chances are, the guy you’ve been dating has shown signs that he’s losing interest in you. But because you didn’t understand what his actions, or lack of actions, meant, you assumed everything was fine. When you miss the cues, you feel like a guy changes quickly. But it may not be the case. The reason I bring this up is because I too thought a guy would TELL ME if he felt something was wrong. I figured the boys also agreed that talking was the best way to communicate! But, after making the effort to learn more about men, I discovered that guys communicate more with actions than words. I also learned that guys will do anything they can to avoid hurting a girl, even if it means lying to her. That means if you ask a guy “do you still love me?” He will tell lies and say yes if he thinks he can avoid hurting you. He sounds crazy, but it’s the truth. That’s why it’s so important that women learn to read a man’s actions, instead of just listening to his words. A strong indicator of a guy’s continued interest in a girl is that HE asks you out and travels to see you.
2. Boys need to be loved for who they really are.
Guys crave true intimacy with a woman, because emotional intimacy is something they often can’t share with their friends. However, if a girl doesn’t know how to communicate with a guy in a way that makes him feel safe enough to open up to her, she will eventually give up and shut down. A guy will keep hoping to connect emotionally with a girl, until she does something to convince him otherwise. Most men won’t be able to explain it, but loyalty is very important to a man. It may seem obvious, but girls rarely understand the kind of loyalty men need. In addition to being sexually and emotionally faithful, guys need a girl who can help them keep their secrets. Usually, her secrets refer to those of her family and her thoughts and feelings. If a guy feels that you can’t help him keep her secrets, she will subconsciously avoid opening up to you emotionally. When this happens, his feelings for you will change. Whether he wants to or not.