(and why it’s not yours just because it spreads its legs)

As a doctor to many women who worked in the sex-for-money business, as a lover to many women of many ages, nationalities, and careers (including x-prostitutes and dancers), I have been privileged to have the trust and insight of the emotions and the physical bodies of a unique type of woman.

In the process of learning from and loving them, I also learned a great deal about the minds and emotions of the over 3,000 women who came to me for help with their sexual and physical problems (during my years working with hormone replacement for menopausal women ). women).

Most men find out that most prostitutes will not kiss their clients as a surprise and mysterious fact. Why won’t prostitutes kiss the same man they spread their legs for, and more importantly, what important lesson does that teach us about the emotions of women in general (and people in general)?

Most men have the misconception that when a woman spreads her legs for him, she is accessing the most important and sacred part of her. This can give him a sense of power and accomplishment that makes him feel like a bull when he returns to the market.

Carrying with him the idea that this goddess has opened up and given herself to him, he now feels that he can conquer the world and takes that confidence and leaves the castle to face the world as a warrior.

On the other hand, when his princess denies or rejects him for another, he may feel castrated and powerless to face his enemies and inner demons.

This is why men who bestow this power on their lover may have great strength when she opens up to him, but become powerless and depressed when she rejects him. That’s why men who rely heavily on this feedback from a particular woman can lose their balance and take the life of the woman and her new lover when she rejects him; in her mind, she has literally emasculated him and made him feel useless.

There are several possible areas for great power and achievement in this flow of emotion and energy, but there are also areas where men can open themselves to destruction.

So what does all this have to do with the idea that prostitutes don’t kiss? It is this (and more). She doesn’t surrender when she opens your legs, she surrenders when she opens your mind and emotions, when she allows you to connect with her soul.

As a medical student, we learned of a form of syphilis that infects the brain. When this happens, the pupil does not react to light (gets smaller), but it does react to focusing on an object moving from far to near (accommodation). The trick to remembering this change due to neurosyphilis is that the pupil accommodates but does not react (as a prostitute at risk of syphilis does).

So the prostitute accommodates your penis and your simple idea that when you put your penis inside her you are now a powerful man. But, she doesn’t REACT to you, she just ACTS for you. She becomes an actress so you can imagine yourself powerful and then go out as a warrior and fight your battles.

It is an illusion.

You don’t possess her or any woman simply because she spreads your legs. You only own her when she determines that she feels safe enough to trust you with her life, when she feels you would die for her safety and happiness, and when something spiritual happens that can be facilitated but not fully explained.

Then, and only then, will he long to ENTER you. You can’t take a woman away, she must invite you in. She must want with every part of her being to be yours. Then and only then can you take it away. When this happens, you will have the most sacred part of her: her emotions, her mind, her soul, and her true kiss.

Of course, when this happens, you will have access to his body, but you will not take it for your simple pleasure. At this point, you will take his body, his kiss and his thoughts the way manna is received from heaven, the way Moses received the holy commandments, the way Buddha receives enlightenment, as a gift from the sky.

I have interviewed literally thousands of women about the intimacy of their sex lives, most married, most having sex with their husbands, and most acting. Most of them in love with their husbands, most of them taking care of their husbands, but few totally devoted to their husbands, most (not all) actresses.

When I have had a lover who has worked as a prostitute in the past, I have been fascinated to see her go from having a hard time even having an orgasm to finally begging me to take more of her because with my taking she releases more and finds a deeper freedom AND a more intense pleasure of sex and life. She begins to know an orgasm of total surrender and the connection between sex, Love and GOD.

So when a prostitute or any woman spreads your legs, then yes you can participate in the play. You can become the actor and then continue that warrior act as you head to your business.

But when she is hungry to kiss you, and begs you to take in more of her thoughts, she longs for you to know more about her because in your knowing you bring new energy into her bedroom and her walk on earth outside the bedroom– then you will know with her kiss that has given up

Then you will go out into the world the true warrior, the true gentleman who has already given up his own life, has put it as a sacrifice to your vocation, and taking the passion of your lover as the fuel that gives you energy for your sacrifice for the planet. .

Leonardo da Vinci said that most people spend their lives turning food into manure. That’s it. When you have a mission fueled by a real kiss, you will know the hatred of others, you may feel threatened, you may even lose your physical life, but you will know true love, true achievement, and experience a real kiss. .

To learn more about the total surrender orgasm and how to make it safe to be kissed, go to the following link: